One of the worst thoughts by most of us is that we are the only ones going through some bad experiences. We go through life under the cloak of shame because we think that the world can see through our dark spaces. In response, we put a facade of bravery, strength, and peacefulness. We are not open to face these experiences, we bury them in our minds with the hope that they will never escape. We believe that vulnerability is a weakness.
Invulnerability is one of the harshest self-imposed prison sentences individuals subject themselves to. We become confined to the walls we build to let no one in. We surround ourselves with barbed wire and dare anyone to come close.
Life move past while feeling shame, humiliation, and pity for ourselves. Anger, anxiety, and invulnerability take over and they become the defense mechanisms against what the universe puts in front of us.
The reason why this is important is captured succinctly by Brené Brown when she said that “vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change”. This means that you will never get extraordinary results in your life until you break-through the shame that holds you back.
Vulnerability is at the intersection of your continued suffering and finding your leadership spot. You can only attain your leadership spot and become the best version of yourself by being vulnerable. Each day that passes without challenging yourself is your greatness denied. Each day you immerse yourself in things that you know deep down that you should not do.
You constantly put in abeyance things that should bring you closer to your greatness. You are afraid to make that presentation that will give you a breakthrough of a lifetime. You doubt your competence to take that leadership role because you believe that you are not enough.
The challenge is that you remain the same because you are hiding this from those close to you. You refuse help, advice, and guidance because you believe that someday you will have a handle on it. This day will never come until you face the person in the mirror, acknowledging the pain and then asking for help. Embrace and develop a healthy relationship with vulnerability, this is the key to your greatness.
Tex Hlalele is a Personal Mastery, Leadership & Organisational Effectiveness Specialist. Book Tex to help you and your team gain insights and possibilities for individual learning and organizational advancement on +2764 656 6174 or visit http://www.dreamsmadepossible.co.za/contact.html. He is the author of the book, Face the person in the mirror.