Last Saturday, I attended a men’s conference, an event so scarce compared to the hip hop concerts that I’m yet to see value. At this event, people shared simple, yet powerful stories of how they transformed their lives for the better. The focus was on, promoting health, building businesses and shaping character.
I certainly learned valuable lessons and I believe if you apply them (both men and women), they will help you to rewire at a very core level.
Lesson 1: One of the speakers accidentally came across a report about how malls were always slapped with huge electricity bills. He made it his business to understand how the electricity meter reading business works. This led to the first business and many more others that are worth billions today.
Maybe you are asking, so what?
Here’s the thing – most people would have passed that piece of paper as another newspaper article. He saw an opportunity where others saw a challenge. He could have easily said – why bother. Instead my friend, he decided to be curios, open minded and turned a challenge into an opportunity.
Lesson 2: Most of the speakers came from humble beginnings, however they decided to sell value than self-pity. Often times, most of us from poor backgrounds are caught in a vicious cycle of lamenting our poor backgrounds. These are real issues; however, self-pity will never turn things around. These champs identified problems and proposed workable solutions instead of asking for crumbs.
Lesson 3: They started small and gradually became big. The billion-rand business mentioned earlier was never build at a flash of light. What Vusi Thembekwayo said about us Blacks specifically is true “we want to run a billion-rand property business before we could even manage a backroom”. Start small and grow gradually and do not be tempted by overnight success.
Lesson 4: Their journeys were never smooth. They fell, stood up and picked up the pieces. Anyone who depends on a hook of some sort, like winning the lottery, never rise once they fall because they don’t know how to build what was handed to them.
Lesson 5: They value interdependence not self-sufficiency. They partner with divergent thinkers who challenge their perspectives. They hire people smarter than they are. One guaranteed way to fail is to think you know it all.
Lesson 6: They value others and demonstrate that by how they treat their employees. They pay their staff in time, show respect and understand their personal circumstances when the situation demands. They never “pay themselves first” by buying cars and houses before they can pay their employees. They acknowledge that any wrong action by a leader destroys the soul of others.
Lesson 7: Making a mark on the life of others is top of their minds. They do not accumulate wealth only for themselves. As Robin Sharma puts it, “income without impact is an empty victory”
Lesson 8: They spend their hard-earned cash wisely and avoid impulsive buying. Most importantly, they teach their kids the value of money. They focus on building generational wealth and not consumerism that has eaten at the fabric of society.
Lesson 9: Healthy living is their priority. In the words of Dr Kolwane, “if you do not take care of what takes care of you, it will not take care of you”. Be careful of what you eat, exercise your body regularly and have enough rest.
Think Big, Dream Wild & Prosper
Tex Hlalele is a life and business coach and inspirational speaker. He is the author of the book, Face The Person In The Mirror. Book coaching and speaking engagements by calling +27 64 6566174 or visit http://bit.ly/dreamsmadepossible.
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